Intrinsic motivation vs. Extrinsic motivation: What drives you?
No mother is the same. Some mothers thrive with motherhood while others feel like they are drowning. And no mother has the same understanding of what motherhood means to them, either. But one thing that all moms have in common is their need for motivation - and it's not just because they're tired from chasing a toddler around! Every mom needs something to drive her forward on those days when she feels like giving up. This blog post will explore intrinsic motivation vs extrinsic motivation, and how each can provide you with different sources of inspiration as you strive to be the best mother possible!
Intrinsic motivation is the kind of motivation we have for internal reasons. We do things because we like them, enjoy them, or have an interest. Intrinsic motivation is the name that we give to the inner need – the kind of activity that appeals to us. Intrinsic motivation in motherhood is psychological gratification from performing an activity purely for personal satisfaction. For example, the desire to help others and the love of experiencing life with your loved ones.
Extrinsic motivation is the kind of motivation we have to get rewards, avoid punishments, or otherwise satisfy external requirements. Extrinsic motivation, by contrast, names a person’s objective – what they want from their life: money, fame, prestige, or power. In motherhood, extrinsic motivation is rewarding yourself for something you already love doing.
Interestingly, there is some evidence that intrinsic motivation might be more effective in the long term than extrinsic motivation. Intrinsically motivated people show less negative emotions and depression after a task has been completed – they derive their self-worth from within themselves rather than from external factors. They never let bad outcomes from one event define who they are. Their value does not decrease because of any failures that have been faced.
It’s difficult to be motivated by external factors if we don't know what we want. And it's hard to know what we want unless we are internally motivated and have a deep understanding of who we really are as people. So, it's important to really work on figuring out what we want on a very deep level - both for ourselves and in our lives as mothers, and then satisfying that need. What is it that you want out of life and out of motherhood?
It's important to be intrinsically motivated because we are our own best cheerleaders and motivators. When motherhood becomes too tough, a mother needs to remember that they are not in this alone - there is someone who loves them unconditionally (and I'm sure it might as well be themselves). The motivation for motherhood should come from within.
One of the main reasons for doing everything you do is to give your children the best. The best is having you mentally strong and physically healthy so that you can help them grow into healthy adults. In order to do so, motherhood requires that you take care of yourself first. It is important to understand that motherhood does not come with a handbook. Every mother finds her own way and there are many ways of being the best mother possible - it's about what you want out of motherhood. No matter how tough mothering gets, you should remember your intrinsic motivations for why you chose this path in the first place.
We hope that this blog post has given you some insight into intrinsic motivation vs extrinsic motivation and how each can provide you with different sources of inspiration as you strive to be the best mother possible! One of the main reasons for doing everything we do is to give our children the best. And what could possibly make them happier than knowing their mommy is strong, healthy, and happy too? So take care of yourself first so that your family’s happiness continues long after childhood.